Jon’s sister and mum are still here. Jon, me and Aiden are a bit slow out the door in the mornings, we’re still rookie parents. But we’ve managed to do quite a few outings so far. The other day we went to Stenvik. Although it turned out to mainly be an effort to keep Aiden out of the sun and happy at the same time. When we finally gave up, we went back to our place and spent some time on our porch, sitting talking while Aiden slept.
A friend of mine‘s husband said recently when talking about parenthood they entered into just under a year ago: “It’s very strange seeing your wife become a mother”.
At that time I was a few weeks away from giving birth to Aiden. But his statement resurfaced as soon as Aiden was with us and I thought when seeing Jon at the hospital really getting into the dad role that: “It’s pretty strange to see your husband become a dad as well…”
The way he looks after Aiden makes me love him even more. It’s great to see them bond and form a relationship.
And of course, having a dad interested in helping out taking care of the baby really helps you cope and get into routines etc quicker, I think. So many times during these 3 weeks of Aiden’s life I’ve wondered how single mums or mums carrying the whole load of a new baby because the dad’s uninterested or absent in other ways – do it? How do they do it? All credit to them.
Aiden had his first bath on Tuesday, as soon as his navel scab thing fell off (although I read afterwards that you can actually bath babies before as well). We’d wet his hair before and he liked this so we were interested to know how the bath would go down. He did not protest at first, he seemed to like it. But I suppose he started feeling the cold and by the time we got him out, he was very upset. Not completely uncommon I suppose.
A new week to begin. I have To-do list for today, but waking up this morning I felt like I could sleep all day. Our visitors are on a day trip to Stockholm so I could if I wanted to. Except the little one had different ideas. Sleep? Jon and I took turns trying to sleep. Although I should have probably got more of the sleep as I’ve been up most of the night as well.
We’re all dressed and ready to go for a walk now anyway, just finishing feeding and this multitasking blogging and then we’re off.
Hopefully he’ll sleep when we come back and we can do the mould of his hands and feet. And then maybe bath him for the first time as his navel thing fell off yesterday.
Gosh I’m so proud of my little plutt. We went to the baby centre on Thursday and he’s doing so well. We both got commendation for the breastfeeding, the receipt that is working really well is his big weight gain. Although at the moment he’s making a lot of fuss when latching on and fighting against it even though that’s exactly what he wants and needs. Apparently it’s common and I read about it and it can go on until month two. But you can’t help but wonder if other things have interfered and made him forget how to latch on, like using our finger as we haven’t started with a dummy. Our maybe he’s getting too many new impressions. But the nurse did confirm as well that it is a common thing they go through.
My dad has been saying that Aiden is really strong and the nurse said the same thing. And that he’s very alert, following with his eyes and listening so carefully. She went as far as saying he’s ahead of his age. I had no idea what a relief it would be to hear how well he’s doing and the positive words from the nurse. “I knew it! He’s perfect!” I said with a smile.
A week ago my sister took some time to photograph Aiden. I’m so excited to see the results. She’s sent me a few on What’s app the other night. But I’ll wait to post them until I’ve got the real images. But here’s some behind the scenes;
OK so here’s my first “new mum” tip: Feed Baby Pro (Android app)
It has helped me so much to get the breast-feeding organised and it’s kind of fun as well! For some it might be stressful to keep close track. I enjoy it. But we’re all different. You can record the feeds & diapers to reassure yourself everything is working as it should. By recording it you keep track so you feed equally from left and right as well. And it has reminders so that you don’t let it go too long between feeds. Especially when your breast milk is getting established.
It was exactly a week ago that Aiden was thrown onto my tummy by the midwife. I took my clothes off so he could lie skin to skin on my chest and all I could see was his skull and all his hair. He started screaming (well not very loud, but making noises) pretty quickly. Jon had to walk around to the other side to see him and take a photo. He was definitely an Aiden.
I was really shocked by all the emotions that comes with this experience. Nothing anyone has ever told me has been close to explaining how it would feel to have your baby here with you. Jon, Aiden and me have had an awesome week and we look forward to days, weeks and years to come.
On the way home from the hospital on Saturday, Jon looks at me through the rear window: “Doesn’t it feel like we’ve come back from another planet?”
I’m sitting in the back holding a 3 day old Aiden’s head steady in the car seat.
You can’t prepare yourself.
One thing’s for sure though. This little plutt has his mum and dad completely smitten. He’s the best “plutt” (Schrimp) in the world!